My Partner Wants to Have a Threesome (What Should I Do?)

Some men and women commonly fantasize about having a threesome with their significant other. Having a threesome is a popular fantasy. When your partner asks you to engage in a threesome, confusion is most likely your initial reaction. You find yourself asking these questions: “Am I not good enough?” or “Does that mean he thinks I’m not sexy anymore?” Most likely, your partner does not think you are unattractive, or have minimal skills in bed; they just want to make one of their biggest fantasies come true.

You only have two choices: either you do it or not. You could accept your partner’s proposal and partake in their sexual fantasy, or you could refuse. The decision is entirely yours. You must have complete trust in your relationship before you agree to it.

If you feel that having a threesome might be a pleasurable experience and you'll be able to handle the emotional fallout that might occur afterwards, then, by all means, accept your partner’s suggestion!  However, you cannot make your partner make up all the rules. You have to establish some rules so that you can make their fantasy your fantasy, as well. If you want, you get to decide on the gender of the third person. This way, you have the power to pick someone who could make you feel more comfortable, possibly someone who you think is enjoyable. Talk to your partner about their ideas on how to make the threesome exciting. The both you should have input into how your threesome should be like.

While some agree into having a threesome with their partner, many do not. If it goes against your views and feel that it is not necessary in your relationship, then do not agree to it. If you are not comfortable with the idea of sharing your partner with someone else in bed, then gently refuse their proposal. Clearly explain to your partner how you feel, and tell them that having a threesome is not something you want to experience. Problems might occur when you do it against your will. Some individuals who agreed to participate in it felt deceived after they see their partner fondling or having sex with another person. Sometimes, feelings of jealousy and distrust could take over the relationship after having a threesome. If your partner truly cares for you, they will respect your choice and drop the subject. However, if they force you into doing it, then you should consider where your relationship stands. Refusing to accept your decision is a sign that he does have your best interest at heart. Threesomes are not a necessity in a relationship; it is merely an accessory in your sex life.

Better kissing = better sex.

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